5 Things not to do...It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult.
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It’s interesting to note that some people are motivated much more by what bad stuff they must avoid in life, rather than what good things they could lay hold of.
So, this list is for you if you’re in that camp; if you need to hear about the things that could be getting in your way right now. Address these and you’ll find the success comes an awful lot easier.
6. Seek the perfect answer before taking action.
This approach is definitely going to keep you stuck! If you have been maintaining this frame of mind, and I’ve been guilty of way too much of it during my life, you may be justifying your lack of action with a very convincing argument that you could do it that much better if you just learn a bit more, get a better role model or attend another seminar.
You may not be stuck on detail, however, it may be that you haven’t completely defined your grand life purpose and think you must get that completely nailed down before you take another step.
These are just excuses. It’s time to admit you are procrastinating. And procrastinators always have very good reasons for their approach. But ‘to know and not do, is not yet to know.’ That means that if you haven’t taken action on what you already know, you don’t really even know what you think you know. Did you know that? Take action, learn from the doing and you may be surprised t what actually works.
7. Dive in with all you’ve got... without a sustainable plan.
Have you ever made a New Year resolution? How many of them lasted the year? Maybe some did; probably the majority of them didn’t! Why is that? Surely your intentions were good, positive and admirable. So, was it a lack of will-power?
Very, very often, it comes down to the fact that you didn’t have a plan of action that was sustainable. Taking time to plan ahead, for the good times and bad will help you plan what’s realistic and devise ways of countering those times when the natural motivation seems to have waned.
8. Keep the blinkers on.
Blinkers are good for horses. They shield their eyes and stop them seeing stuff that could distract or frighten them – especially when they’re on the highway.
Focus is a good thing. There are far too many people whose vision is not clear enough and they move from one thing to another wondering if this latest thing is the answer to their dreams. Yet it is equally dangerous to be so focused one thing that you ignore some important advice, opportunities or warning signs coming from another direction.
Don’t blinker your vision too much. Allow yourself time to look at alternative ways of achieving things because if you only have one way to achieve your goal and that fails, you’ll assume it can’t be done.
9. Go at it like it’s a 100 meter sprint
The mindset of the marathon runner is far more suited for those who wish for long-term, sustainable success. Build up your personal and business fitness
Establish habits that keep you active, growing and balanced, for this is how life can be sustained.
‘Business at the speed of thought’ is fine, once you’ve established a system robust enough to deliver. It does not mean that you should think it and
“Ready shoot, aim.” Is another popular saying in modern business culture – and that may be exactly the right approach but *only* once you’ve assessed the potential risks, the downside you may be landed with if it all goes horribly wrong. And you do need to build into your plans that you will fail more often than succeed. That’s the only way to succeed without living under huge amounts of stress.
10. Try to do it all yourself.
Yes, it is essential that you take ultimate responsibility for your life, your choices and your behaviours. Once that’s clear, there are two specific things you really must do.
The first thing is to identify the areas that are required for you to succeed and build a team (or a better team) that is specifically composed of people who can take on the tasks that you are not so good at. Doing this will supercharge your progress and enable you to multiply your impact massively.
The second thing is that it is also essential that you find a coach who can help you tackle those areas that are not natural strengths. In fact, if you’re really smart – and committed to your personal success – you’ll also have a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you even in the areas where you are skilled, able and successful.
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Pad is a trusted adviser to business leaders across the globe. He is Director at Come Alive Success Coaching ltd. and the Author of TEAM ME - How to Play Your Best Game in Life, and TEAM GUY - Forging Men of Soul & Steel.