There has been so much talk over the past couple of decades about the ‘Law of Attraction’ and how we can ‘manifest’ into our lives pretty much anything that we believe we can have - as long as we are behaving in a way that is congruent to our beliefs.
Exactly how far this is actually true is a matter of hot debate but we may all be missing a vital piece of the equation if we are ignoring, or are simply unaware of, a powerful counter-force that we can only sensibly name the ‘Law of Repulsion’.
The Law of Repulsion is probably most easily understood by looking at a couple common examples:
If you were in town and started to feel hungry you might step into a store and glance at the snacks available on the shelves.
You may be looking for something specific; especially if you know the store well and the kind of stock they usually hold. But whether you are looking for something specific or simply browsing the available stock, you are inevitably (and without thinking about it) screening out a large number of potential options that lie before you.
There may be a few options that you consciously weigh-up in that moment but there will be many that you are completely deleting with no conscious consideration whatsoever.
For whatever reason, whether it is a matter of taste, size (both yours and the packet’s ! :) ), food allergies, or on nutritional grounds, these are the items that you are repelling with barely a thought.
This is the law of repulsion at work.
If you were to attend a networking event, the same law might be seen at work.
There will be individuals or small groups of people that you find yourself attracted towards and there will be others that, for reasons you are probably not consciously aware of, you simply don't find appealing. You may be a great judge of people but you can never know the value that lies hidden in a situation until to engage with it - and do so with an open mind.... and heart.
The trick, of course, is to become aware of the unconscious preferences that are guiding your behaviours in such moments because to make a poor choice in either of these situations could have a significant impact upon your future.
A poor choice regarding snacks might, over time, impact your waistline: a poor choice in engaging with certain people at a networking event might lose you a significant business opportunity.
Have you any idea what the Law of Repulsion might have actually cost you in the past?
Of course, we do not have the time or money or energy to choose every option laid before us, but it is well worth seeking clarity on those negative, momentary ‘vibes’ that cause you to pass certain options and opportunities by without a second thought.
Become aware, then, of your moments of decision throughout the day - especially when it comes to starting or in deepening relationships with people who might prove key to your success.
Are there people whom you would love to reach out to you in your dreams - but would be scared to reach out to in reality, as you feel they are simply outside of your league?
Are there job roles you have pushed away because you feel inadequate to the task and demands that such a role might place upon you?
In these, and 1001 similar situations, there is of course a vital part to be played by good sense (and many people have, at times, bitten off more than they can chew) however we are all guilty to some degree of failing to maximise the opportunities that could so easily be ours for the taking, because we are unconsciously repelling great choices that appear before us.
So, become aware of your natural inclinations and stop yourself for a moment whenever a choice appears before you. Take a moment to challenge your own personal unconscious inclination and simply ask yourself one question, “What if…?”
‘What if…’ opens the door to possibility.
‘What if…’ opens the door to possibility, and a sense of possibility is always the first step towards progress.
You may just find that this simple question will embolden you to take a step in a new direction and, lo and behold, see a new door opening before you.
What you attract and what you repel in life depends more than anything upon your VALUES and these values will be aligned most directly to the Archetypes that are most dominant in your life.
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Pad is a trusted adviser to business leaders across the globe. He is Director at Come Alive Success Coaching ltd. and the Author of TEAM ME - How to Play Your Best Game in Life, and TEAM GUY - Forging Men of Soul & Steel.