Finally, I often recommend this simple yet profound verse to those I’m coaching as they are facing challenging situations. It’s best if you take time aside to repeat this out loud to yourself at least twice a day. One girl I was coaching used to use this as she swam lengths every morning. It’s amazing what affect it has on your body chemistry and your mental state if you really accept the words as your own. It’s simply this…

TIME TO DISPEL THE MYTHS OF WHAT ACTUALLY MAKES US HAPPY

Or should it really be 'deSPELLing'… removing the spells we've cast over our own lives. So often we pronounce things as if they are true about us, about our situation. These words limit us, dare I say it *curse* us. They reflect something we actually believe about ourselves or about the situation. 

And worst, we somehow believe that if things were set up a certain way, *then* we'd naturally be happier. 

So you hear people saying, ‘If XXX happened then I’d be happy.’ – but this is total trash! Whilst it might give them one less thing to worry about, they'll soon revert to their previous level of happiness (or depression). 

Put simply, your happiness is not dependent on your circumstances.

So let's have a look at a few common traits that we invariably find in happy people:

• Happy people are focused on others - not on themselves! (Depressed people do the opposite.)
  
• Happy people have learned to appreciate what they have, the people around them, life itself
  
• Happy people see opportunities wherever they look
  
• Happy people are not trying to ‘achieve to be happy’, rather they have learned to ‘happily achieve’
  
• Happy people have lives that are set up to meet their specific, primary needs. These being: a need for Certainty, Variety, Love, Significance, Growth and Self-Esteem (which comes from Contribution)

Again, our language reveals the way we're thinking about things. ‘I have to do X,Y and Z.' Grumble. groan, gripe. How about you get to do those things? You get the privilege of tackling the challenge, of facing this unique situation, or being counted worthy to receive this event.


THE DECEPTIVE YARN ‘IF ONLY’

Happy people accept responsibility for EVERY part of their lives

If you often use the phrase, ‘If only…’ see it as a huge warning flag. It means you’re about to settle for an excuse – a blatant lie about why things aren’t going to happen as you’d like them too. This guarantees that you will not become flexible enough to achieve the outcome you desire AND provides you a (life-draining) justification for settling for something far below your true desire. 

A study of the top 5 regrets of the dying, included, “I wish I’d learned to be happier with my life – I now realise that could simply have chosen to be happier even when life wasn’t perfect.”

How to Change your Beliefs about Money, Wealth and Riches
Only when you change your beliefs around money can you start to earn, and manage, an abundance of it.

Here are my top ten recommendations to kick-starting that change: 

I Create


I paint the scene with my eyes

I see what I create

I create what I see

It’s not all there is

But for me, it is to be

This has become my reality

I see, I speak, I walk the path

I plan, I build

I work, I laugh

I believe

And what I believe I see

And what I see I receive

It happens first inside of me

Not empty dreams

Not vanity

But a force of ingenuity

That forges my reality

Unleashing creativity

For everyone to see

For what everyone can see

Started inside of me.

5 Things not to do...It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult.

If you haven't seen 10 Powerful Ways to get out of Stuck: PART 1, have a read of that first.

It’s interesting to note that some people are motivated much more by what bad stuff they must avoid in life, rather than what good things they could lay hold of.

So, this list is for you if you’re in that camp; if you need to hear about the things that could be getting in your way right now. Address these and you’ll find the success comes an awful lot easier.


6. Seek the perfect answer before taking action. 

This approach is definitely going to keep you stuck! If you have been maintaining this frame of mind, and I’ve been guilty of way too much of it during my life, you may be justifying your lack of action with a very convincing argument that you could do it that much better if you just learn a bit more, get a better role model or attend another seminar.

You may not be stuck on detail, however, it may be that you haven’t completely defined your grand life purpose and think you must get that completely nailed down before you take another step. 

These are just excuses. It’s time to admit you are procrastinating. And procrastinators always have very good reasons for their approach. But ‘to know and not do, is not yet to know.’ That means that if you haven’t taken action on what you already know, you don’t really even know what you think you know. Did you know that? Take action, learn from the doing and you may be surprised t what actually works.

7. Dive in with all you’ve got... without a sustainable plan. 

Have you ever made a New Year resolution? How many of them lasted the year? Maybe some did; probably the majority of them didn’t! Why is that? Surely your intentions were good, positive and admirable. So, was it a lack of will-power? 

Very, very often, it comes down to the fact that you didn’t have a plan of action that was sustainable. Taking time to plan ahead, for the good times and bad will help you plan what’s realistic and devise ways of countering those times when the natural motivation seems to have waned.

8. Keep the blinkers on.

Blinkers are good for horses. They shield their eyes and stop them seeing stuff that could distract or frighten them – especially when they’re on the highway. 

Focus is a good thing. There are far too many people whose vision is not clear enough and they move from one thing to another wondering if this latest thing is the answer to their dreams. Yet it is equally dangerous to be so focused one thing that you ignore some important advice, opportunities or warning signs coming from another direction.

Don’t blinker your vision too much. Allow yourself time to look at alternative ways of achieving things because if you only have one way to achieve your goal and that fails, you’ll assume it can’t be done. 

9. Go at it like it’s a 100 meter sprint

The mindset of the marathon runner is far more suited for those who wish for long-term, sustainable success. Build up your personal and business fitness 

Establish habits that keep you active, growing and balanced, for this is how life can be sustained.

‘Business at the speed of thought’ is fine, once you’ve established a system robust enough to deliver. It does not mean that you should think it and 

“Ready shoot, aim.” Is another popular saying in modern business culture – and that may be exactly the right approach but *only* once you’ve assessed the potential risks, the downside you may be landed with if it all goes horribly wrong. And you do need to build into your plans that you will fail more often than succeed. That’s the only way to succeed without living under huge amounts of stress.

10.  Try to do it all yourself. 

Yes, it is essential that you take ultimate responsibility for your life, your choices and your behaviours. Once that’s clear, there are two specific things you really must do.

The first thing is to identify the areas that are required for you to succeed and build a team (or a better team) that is specifically composed of people who can take on the tasks that you are not so good at. Doing this will supercharge your progress and enable you to multiply your impact massively. 

The second thing is that it is also essential that you find a coach who can help you tackle those areas that are not natural strengths. In fact, if you’re really smart – and committed to your personal success – you’ll also have a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you even in the areas where you are skilled, able and successful.  


CONCLUSION

Take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential.

“This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” 
                                 Brian Tracy – Author of over 80 best-selling books.

Now take the next step - do your own search to find a coach who is expertly suited to your situation 
or APPLY now for one-on-one coaching with me, to see if my approach is what you need right now. 
But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, get a coach!

It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult right now.

Here are some absolutely key actions you can take immediately to bring about a big change in your situation. 


5 Things to do...

1. Get absolutely clear on your goal. 

Identify your most important goal – the one that will provide you with the greatest benefit, the biggest sense of fulfilment (or relief!) once you've achieved it.

Test it by ‘future pacing’. That is, imagine a time in the future when you've completely achieved that goal and see how it feels. In your imagination, really put yourself in to that position and ask yourself if it’s what you wanted and expected. How could it be better? Is there anything missing? Who is this good for? You, your family and/or friends, your community, nation, world? Are you actually ready for it? Is there any reason it couldn't be sustained once achieved? Once you have this clarity and its evidently something you can fully set your heart upon, take just a few minutes every single day to remind yourself of it in vivid detail. This will instruct both your conscious and unconscious mind that this is where you are heading. 

2. Get clear on exactly what you believe about the goal you've set. 

You may already know how important it is to get rapport with someone else before you attempt to persuade, encourage or input in any way into their lives. But now you should ask yourself, how good is your rapport with yourself? 

If that sounds like a strange question, maybe I should ask another question; have you ever felt that there is some kind of conflict going on inside you? Until these inner struggles are resolved you will always, in some way, stay stuck – because you’ll be pulling yourself in two (maybe more!) directions at the same time. 

I use a specific series of questions with my clients that helps them rapidly uncover these issues so that they can then choose what they want to ‘weed out’. 

Uncover what you really, deeply believe about your goal, your situation and your capabilities. Then you’ll be able to align yourself towards your goals and achieve... well, practically anything!

3. Get clear on which archetypes are dominant in your life

There are many different archetypes that various authors present in their methods and they all their values. I like to keep things simple and focus on just six: the Sovereign, the Warrior, the Sage, the Lover, the Mystic and the Jester. 

If you’ve never actually profiled yourself to understand which are dominant in your life, head over the explanatory video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqyauKSZUHU and map your own, personal profile.

Without this understanding you won’t understand what’s driving you, why you want to tackle things a particular way (and why rubs certain people up the wrong way), what it takes to motivate yourself and what sort of people you need in your immediate team to maximise your unique set of strengths and weaknesses.

We've got 5 more to go. But you can now take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential.

“This is a wonderful book that shows you how 
to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” 
Brian Tracy – Author of over 80 other best-selling books

The aim of an Archetype Profiling is simply to show you which archetypes are most dominant in your life. When these become apparent, all kinds of related issues can be understood and, very often, hidden in these issues, we will find the reason why you've become *stuck* at some point in your life.

Interpretation

When I play back what the profile has indicated, people sometimes simply acknowledge it; sometimes are completely amazed. But what happens next is the most important thing because with this profile to hand I can then easily predict what they value most in life, what motivates them, in what sort of situations they would find contentment and happiness, what types of people they admire (or loath), what their ideal career would involve. In many situations, it's not so much *what* they do, it's *how* they would do it.

Results

Listen to Joy as she talks about the impact a short profiling session had on her own self awareness and note the comments I've added into the middle of the recording. These will give you a context that would not otherwise be apparent, and shows you why the session was so liberating for Joy herself. 

You can follow the method in Chapter 3 of Pad's book 'Team Me' (available from the Products page, on Amazon UK Amazon USor other online bookstores, as well as iTunes and Amazon as MP3s). This will give you a good indication of your present dominant and recessive archetypes, But in order to more adequately interpret the results, you might want to contact Pad and arrange a personal session by phone, Skype or face to face to gain a thorough understanding of who you were truly born to be.