How To Stop Limited Thinking and Step Up Now
Discover the remarkable power of Archetypes to transform your performance in any given moment. Did you know...
Your results in life depend on what you are DOING... What you're doing is steered by the way you FEEL about things... And the way you feel about things can change in an instant... if you use these audios to train yourself into new ways of thinking. LISTEN BELOW
These audios have been designed for repeated usage, because the more you hear and practice the character you hear demonstrated, the easier you’ll find it is to express that character, that role, that energy when you most need it.
Each track is then followed by an additional exercise to guide you in the anchoring of the state you've attained - so that you can literally trigger it in full force, whenever you might need it – and that without any mental effort on your part. This will help you enormously, because when you are well-practiced in their differing approaches to life’s various challenges, you will have a much greater flexibility in your behaviours. And that flexibility is a real POWER! If you’re stuck in some situation, the chances are it’s because you've been trying to tackle that situation in your typical way – that is, with an ineffective archetype.
See this live example of a lady who faced a significant challenge working in a job role that did not suit her natural, personal preferences - as revealed in her personal archetype profile. You'll understand how someone's Mystic archetype can be suppressed at work whilst their Sage is in demand... and what this brave soul did about it.
This simple, intuitive way of profiling is remarkably accurate and can lead to some very important distinctions. Watch. listen and learn as Pad leads a conversation that ends in a remarkable and quite unexpected conclusion. Unpacking Archetypes - Comparing Personal and Professional ProfilesFREE DOWNLOADS
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Watch this demonstration and learn how to access the archetype of the Sovereign in your own life - to over come challenging situations that require you to step up!
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Six of the Best? Aren't there more archetypes than these?
Remarkable as their insights are, I found myself innately suspicious of anything that attempts to classify the complex human condition into a mere 4 quadrants. As I explored these crucial archetypes I began to see that there was a missing piece between the ‘King’ and ‘Magician’. I believed that there was a separate archetype for the Mr Spock or Sherlock Holmes type that could not comfortably fit under either title. These highly intellectual characters never ventured into the realms of ‘magic’, but insisted upon the rational, the logical, the reasonable in all matters. From this I decided I needed to add the ‘Sage’ – present in many other archetypal lists or models.   Equally, I found there was too much of a stretch to push all kinds of attributes into what these gentlemen defined as the Lover. This was especially true regarding aspects of the arts and comedy. An observation of people in everyday life will quickly reveal that there are some people who are very ‘loving’ but aren’t very artistic at all. There are even those who are very ‘loving’ but have little sense of humour (less common, but I have at least one person in mind). And so I ensured that my model contained the Jester, at least – who completes the ‘right brain’ trio. I fully acknowledge that I could sub-divide the 6 archetypes I use for my initial profiling but starting with something too complex is never a good idea, I believe, so I go with it as far as I can before any kind of subdivision is sought. When I do, I might introduce the Mother, the Innocent, the Shepherd, the Artisan and others, because I see that they all have some value. It was only once I’d defined the six and started working with them that I began to realise there were 3 that were clearly the ‘left-brain’ types and 3 that were clearly the ‘right-brain’ types. After that I discovered that each had a clear opposite number in the alternate camp and identified exactly what forces caused an attraction between them. I could add that the ‘Mystic’ is almost synonymous with the ‘Magician’ – though it depends upon whose definition you use. I believe that every archetype, in its original form, has a certain nobility about it – that, at its core, it is a force for good, able to contribute something valuable to the world. That said, it is fully understood that under certain circumstances these archetypes can (and often do) choose to use their unique energies to force their way onto others – taking them into what we refer to as ‘shadow’ expressions.
So I need to clarify that what some people refer to as archetypes, I see merely as an aspect of a broader archetype. The Bully, for example, is simply a facet of an overheated (shadow) Warrior in the Team Me model. Equally, the Victim is the frozen shadow of the Warrior. Both of these are seen as sub-sets of the original, noble archetype - I do not see them as archetypes in their own right. To label someone as one of these shadows immediately places them into a dangerous position of the individual identifying with that state and in a sense 'owning' their shadow state. Whilst some therapists seem to delight in stirring up an individual's darker sides, I simply use them as an indicator of the mature, positive, healthy archetypal role they've been given in life. So, quickly back to Jung and Freud. These men did not define archetypes, they had been recognised at least since the time of Philo of Alexandria (10BC to 40AD) but they did make new distinctions as they saw common characteristics and patterns at an unconscious level. I've learned much from many who have delved into the world of Archetypes and brought forth many valuable distinctions on their journeys, My commitment is to make this knowledge as accessible as possible, without diluting things too much, to the largest possible audience - so I'm sticking with the Team Me Six. Sometimes the Sage needs to get a bit more active!Of course, you can comment... and if you like it, LIKE IT :-) One of the keys to getting anyone to ‘step up’ to significantly improve their performance in any area of their life is to help get them into the character or energy of a more suitable archetype. In this instance David had only ever been used to presenting himself in his primary archetypal expression – the Sage.
First we explored what it would be like to go even deeper into the expression of the Sage. This helped to highlight the and provided a stronger contrast for the new archetype we were about to explore. The quickest way to invoke the Warrior archetype is to provide a target, a goal and some kind of *resistance* to overcome. In this instance, the punch glove provided all we needed. See how quickly John was able to access a very, very different kind of energy by this simple act. As he took action the whole room supported him so that he’d feel comfortable taking physical action – in fact, he probably didn't want to disappoint them which would have given him even more of a reason to show himself capable. So, ask yourself, how have you been approaching that specific challenge you’re facing right now? Has your approach been effective? If not, then ask which of the archetypes is likely to help you the most. Then get into that character. If you need guidance on this, you may want to contact Pad regarding personal coaching at: www.comealive.co.uk/contact.html It’s time to be your own life coach. Get to the root of what is keeping you stuck in whatever area of life you’re finding difficult right now. Here are some absolutely key actions you can take immediately to bring about a big change in your situation. 5 Things to do... 1. Get absolutely clear on your goal. Identify your most important goal – the one that will provide you with the greatest benefit, the biggest sense of fulfilment (or relief!) once you've achieved it. Test it by ‘future pacing’. That is, imagine a time in the future when you've completely achieved that goal and see how it feels. In your imagination, really put yourself in to that position and ask yourself if it’s what you wanted and expected. How could it be better? Is there anything missing? Who is this good for? You, your family and/or friends, your community, nation, world? Are you actually ready for it? Is there any reason it couldn't be sustained once achieved? Once you have this clarity and its evidently something you can fully set your heart upon, take just a few minutes every single day to remind yourself of it in vivid detail. This will instruct both your conscious and unconscious mind that this is where you are heading. 2. Get clear on exactly what you believe about the goal you've set. You may already know how important it is to get rapport with someone else before you attempt to persuade, encourage or input in any way into their lives. But now you should ask yourself, how good is your rapport with yourself? If that sounds like a strange question, maybe I should ask another question; have you ever felt that there is some kind of conflict going on inside you? Until these inner struggles are resolved you will always, in some way, stay stuck – because you’ll be pulling yourself in two (maybe more!) directions at the same time. I use a specific series of questions with my clients that helps them rapidly uncover these issues so that they can then choose what they want to ‘weed out’. Uncover what you really, deeply believe about your goal, your situation and your capabilities. Then you’ll be able to align yourself towards your goals and achieve... well, practically anything! “These [live] sessions have been the most powerful few hours I’ve experienced in… well, years!” Hardy S - Corporate Executive. London. 3. Get clear on which archetypes are dominant in your life There are many different archetypes that various authors present in their methods and they all their values. I like to keep things simple and focus on just six: the Sovereign, the Warrior, the Sage, the Lover, the Mystic and the Jester. If you’ve never actually profiled yourself to understand which are dominant in your life, head over the explanatory video at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BqyauKSZUHU and map your own, personal profile. Without this understanding you won’t understand what’s driving you, why you want to tackle things a particular way (and why rubs certain people up the wrong way), what it takes to motivate yourself and what sort of people you need in your immediate team to maximise your unique set of strengths and weaknesses. 
4. Stay flexible. Whatever you set your mind to do, make sure that you’re aware of the feedback you could be receiving. Simply look at the results you’re getting. If the results indicate that you’re moving in the right direction towards your intended goals, great... keep doing what you’re doing. If they’re not, then this is a sign that you probably need to try something different. If you’re too rigid you won’t want to do this, so ask yourself, if you were willing to try another approach, what would that be? This is not a reason to knee-jerk the moment one person says something negative about what you’re doing, but a call to take seriously the need to have a system that measures your progress and a willingness to respond to the signals by flexing your approach. 5. Find a role model you can learn from. You have a goal? Good. Chances are someone has already done the very thing you want to achieve – or at least something similar. So find such a person and get as close to them as it is possible to do so. Learn from them, hang around them, read their books, listen to them as often as you can. You will find that they achieved what they have because of a certain mindset, a certain set of beliefs that they used to direct their actions on an ongoing basis. They will have made mistakes too – so take a shortcut by finding out what *not* to do too. Close contact with a role model is one of the fastest ways of gaining the mental attitude required to replicate their success and, adding this to your present learnings, can enable you to go even further than they ever did. We've got 5 more to go. But you can now take the first step – grab your own copy of TEAM ME to start your own voyage of self-discovery; gaining invaluable insights and changing forever the way you see your own potential. “This is a wonderful book that shows you how to unlock your full potential for success and achievement.” Brian Tracy – Author of over 80 other best-selling books Take the next step – sign-up with a coach who is expertly suited to tackle your situation. You can arrange a 10 minute call with me to see if my approach is what you need right now, or do your own search to find someone else. But whoever it is, for the sake of a world waiting for you to shine, do get a coach.
The Archetypes dominant in your life make you who you are.The aim of an Archetype Profiling is simply to show you which archetypes are most dominant in your life. When these become apparent, all kinds of related issues can be understood and, very often, hidden in these issues, we will find the reason why you've become *stuck* at some point in your life. Interpretation When I play back what the profile has indicated, people sometimes simply acknowledge it; sometimes are completely amazed. But what happens next is the most important thing because with this profile to hand I can then easily predict what they value most in life, what motivates them, in what sort of situations they would find contentment and happiness, what types of people they admire (or loath), what their ideal career would involve. In many situations, it's not so much *what* they do, it's *how* they would do it. Results Listen to Joy as she talks about the impact a short profiling session had on her own self awareness and note the comments I've added into the middle of the recording. These will give you a context that would not otherwise be apparent, and shows you why the session was so liberating for Joy herself. How can I get an Archetype profile?You can follow the method in Chapter 3 of Pad's book 'Team Me' (available from the Products page, on Amazon UK Amazon USor other online bookstores, as well as iTunes and Amazon as MP3s). This will give you a good indication of your present dominant and recessive archetypes, But in order to more adequately interpret the results, you might want to contact Pad and arrange a personal session by phone, Skype or face to face to gain a thorough understanding of who you were truly born to be. **This is an excerpt from Chapter 6 of TEAM ME - now widely available on Amazon and virtually every other online book store** The Shadow Side During a private coaching session, I had introduced my client to the whole concept of Archetypes and led him through an exercise that helped him to connect with, and release, his ‘Sage’ in a very powerful way. The results were immediate and, he told me later, had made a huge difference in his relationship with his fiancée. As we rounded up he asked me a very good question, “Is it possible to have too much of one of these archetypes?” What we’ve focussed on thus far have been the healthy, mature expressions of each archetype; emphasising the good things that each one is naturally able, and inclined, to contribute. We wouldn’t normally be concerned with anyone being ‘too mature’ or ‘too healthy’, but it is possible – in fact we should acknowledge that it is actually very common – for some of these archetypes to get out of balance – sometime chronically. Something that Carl Jung recognised many years ago is that each of these archetypes also has a dark side; a characteristic set of negative behaviours that can cause real damage to both the individual and those within their circle of influence. It is often said that someone’s greatest strength is also their greatest weakness and this phenomenon can be predicted very specifically for each archetype. This dark side will often arise with the purpose of meeting our personal needs as rapidly as possible, often when we are stressed or fearful, and it will manifest itself in two broad ways; either as too much of an archetype’s traits, or too little of them. If you can imagine each archetype being measured by its own thermometer, you can probably grasp the idea of there being a moderate zone of temperature that would represent the healthy, mature archetypal traits we’ve discussed thus far. But if the temperature rises above this zone, we’d say this character is now getting overheated; and, equally, if the temperature dropped too low, the same character would become frozen, inactive and stifled in its expression. H20 A similar metaphor we might use for this is found in the various states in which we can experience water: H20. Water is, of course, vital for every kind of life. Yet it has to be at a moderate temperature for any living organism to benefit from it, because only then can we drink it or wash with it or even give it to our plants. However, if the very same water becomes too hot (or too energised, we could say) it can scald, hurt and even kill. Likewise, if it is frozen it can’t be absorbed, it can’t nourish us - we can’t even wash things with it. Turning to ice, it can block or burst our pipes, weigh down and break our power lines, paralyse our transportation, stifle our movements, immobilise our muscles, or even kill. So the very same substance can sustain life within a certain range of temperature and can cause much damage when too far above or below this range. In exactly the same way, each of our archetypes can provide great benefits to us if expressed within a moderate, balanced (healthy and mature) range of temperament – and can equally do great damage outside this range; either overheating or freezing. 
Summarising this:
The Balanced (or mature) zone contains all the positive qualities we’ve detailed so far. It should be our aim to remain in this place, where a healthy expression of our archetypes’ key traits is evident and everyone around us benefits. The Overheated zone is where we launch into a predictable set of excessive expressions that invariably cause hurt and damage to ourselves and others. The Frozen zone represents an evident lack of archetypal expression. Here the individual appears unable to access the abilities and strengths of a particular archetype, even when the situation is demanding it from them, and such a lack of appropriate response will render them quite ineffective. What’s interesting is that each archetype displays very specific behaviours when it either overheats or freezes; when it operates with either too much, or too little energy. Most people will find that their strongest traits, whilst mature and balanced much of the time, will on occasions flare up and overheat. This ‘untempered’ strength needs to be effectively managed if damage is to be limited. An archetype may also dive into a ‘frozen’ state of inactivity – usually in response to stressful situations or a major failure after giving something their best shot. Even strong archetypes can lapse into this state when they’ve thrown everything they’ve got at a particular challenge and it is still not overcome. For under-developed or immature archetypes however it may take little more than a certain tone of voice or a certain look from someone to cause them to ‘freeze up’ this way. Jung referred to these negative zones as ‘shadows’; giving us a sense that the very thing that can bring us the help we need - the positive, mature archetype - also carries with it a darker side that is always present and potentially very damaging. For a while I've been interested in the archetypes exhibited by two of the most influential leaders in the personal computer industry; Bill Gates and Steve Jobs. One who has become one of the richest men in the world, the other who (though he was significantly less rich in his lifetime) is regarded as a huge inspiration to millions of people. Many people have studied their respective business methods, market strategies and leadership styles but I wanted to review their very different approaches from an archetypal viewpoint. Knowing what you already know about these men I’m wondering if you have an idea of which archetypes are dominant in each of them, what would you say are the strongest traits: Sovereign, Warrior, Sage, Lover, Mystic or Jester?  Any leader of a multinational, multi-billion dollar industry must have some strong ‘Sovereign’ characteristics, of course, but this will not have always been strongly present.
After delving into Walter Isaacson’s biography on Steve Jobs – which actually contains a lot of material on Gates and shows just how closely these two interacted over the years – I was stunned at just how archetypical the behaviours of these two characters actually are. To me, Gates has always appeared to be the more ‘left-brain’ of the two; which places him amongst the trio of Sovereign, Sage and Warrior. Jobs appeared to be just the opposite; whilst there’s got to be some Sovereign characteristics in the mix, he generally showed much more ‘right-brain’ – creative and lateral – thinking. Again, as you get more familiar with the Team Me pack of six, you’ll see that the Lover, Mystic and Jester are the three that occupy this space. I’ve never met either of these men, so I can only go by what I’ve seen and read., yet it’s clear to me that the Sage is the dominant archetype in Gates; and the Mystic the dominant in Jobs. This I’ve concluded not just from the gifting that each one demonstrates, but also from the evidence of their ‘shadow sides’. Jobs is clearly the more creative of the two. His love for form as well as function is very evident to those who appreciate that sort of thing. Jobs regarded Gates as 'unnervingly narrow' and would often lash out at Microsoft as having ‘no taste, no original ideas, no culture.’ Gates once referred to Jobs as ‘erratic’, he compared his leadership style to that of the ‘Pied Piper’ and accused him of continually overworking his staff. If that wasn’t strong enough Gates, and others, would talk about Steve’s personal ‘reality distortion field’ - claiming that he’d lapse into fantasies that could not be grounded in measurable reality. Gates also observed his frequent ‘highs’ as he talked about his latest plans and developments; then experienced his lapses into bouts of fear, during which Jobs would sometimes refer to his own staff as ‘a bunch of idiots’. He’d witness Jobs displaying a ‘whole gamut of emotions’ and employing a ‘range of manipulation techniques’. These, as you probably know by now, are all classic traits of the Mystic archetype. Gates, on the other hand, is far more ordered, logical, factual in his approach… but lacked imagination if you were to ask the guys at Apple. “Gates was not a good listener,” said Hertzfeld, who was working on the development of early Apple software, telling of times when Gates would not wait until the team had explained how the code worked, but would jump in with his own guess at how it was done. Gates’ comment on his own style is also quite telling, “I’m good at when people are emotional, I’m kind of less emotional.” This, of course, is the talk of a Sage, who prides himself in his ability to remain detached. Finally, there’s a wonderful quote from Steve Wozniak who was a significant player in the early days of mass software development. When he heard of Jobs’ return to Apple he said, “Whatever you think of Steve, he knows how to get the magic back.” Now, take a look again at the photo of these two at Jobs’ home. A rudimentary analysis of their body language is probably all we need to confirm what makes these guys tick:
Concluding, I’m not sure that I’d have liked to have worked for either of these guys! Whilst I’m sure I could learn a huge amount from both of them, there’s just not enough of the Lover in either of them for me to feel like they have my best interests at heart. If you've not read it, I'd recommend you get hold of a copy of Steve Jobs by Walter Issacson you'll see a lot more of the Sage (Gates) and the Mystic (Jobs) in this book than I've even begun to cover. So what do you think? Have you seen anything else about these men that supports or contradicts my assertions above? As part of my NLP Master Practitioner exam I had to detail a new technique. This technique is one that I developed to help people who find themselves exhibiting quite different behaviours in their home environment compared to their work environment. Whilst they are initially often unaware of any disparity, the situation invariably leads to a general unease or unhappiness about their life. The initial assessment is based on the degree to which the six 'Team Me' Archetypes are active in their lives. (Listen to the dramatic audio descriptions of the 6 archetypes here) This is done separately for their personal and professional lives. Whilst it should be recognised that a degree of difference in archetypal influence can potentially be very necessary/helpful in these two arenas, where it’s clear the individual is not happy about the differences, then some sort of intervention may well be in order. If it seems congruently desirable to continue, this is what we do... Step 1 I name and explain 6 key archetypes. These being: the Sovereign, the Warrior, the Lover, the Mystic, the Sage and the Jester – helping my client to find times and situations when each have been in evidence. Step 2 I explain that each archetype:
Step 3 I draw the following chart with them and ask that they grade the relative strength of each of their archetypes, on a scale of 0 to 10, in their personal/home life. A live session example response was as follows:  Step 4 After using a completely unrelated question to break their state and ‘clear the screen’, I then ask that they do the same exercise for their work situation – showing the degree to which each of these archetypes manifest their characteristic influence in their professional lives. The below is from the same real life session.  This rapidly provides me with a highly revealing picture of the areas of greatest incongruence – those that need the most work. Step 5 I highlight the archetype/s that have the greatest numeric discrepancy and, having enquired a little further into the situation, I ask if the client would like the power of their [named strong archetype] in their professional world – for example - to share their influence with the [same archetype] in their personal world. In the live example above, whilst there are clearly big differences in several areas (including Warrior and Lover), the biggest discrepancy is found with the Sage – where it is evidently very strong in his professional life but weak in his life at home. Whilst this may have much to do with environmental conditioning, it was clear that he saw that addressing this was a matter of growth and maturity for him. Step 6 Assuming the client does want to redress the imbalance that has been identified, an appropriate technique is employed. What I have found to be most effective at this point is a Parts Integration. Parts Integration causes the apparent ‘internal partitions’ of the archetype’s influence to dissolve, enabling the archetype to freely perform its role in either sphere without the original (and unhelpful) limiting constraints. Step 7 A supporting technique may also be employed such as an anchoring of the archetype ‘in full-swing’ – so that the client can trigger the state desired at any time. (In this example, this would be most useful in the Personal sphere, when the client had previously found themselves disempowered in this role of Sage.) Step 8 Finally, as a test, we break their current state and future-pace, to test that the client genuinely feels the change has occurred. In subsequent sessions we would discuss how the client’s behaviours have changed at home and/or at work in the light of the intervention.  Let me know if you've tried this yourself, or with your own clients.
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