Making Affirmations Work (Start Where You Are)

Do you have a dream? 
Do you feel there's not enough time left to get it all done?
What are you to do?

Having a vision of a future desired outcome is very important - nothing starts without vision.
And yet there's a significant danger of serious disempowerrment if that dream looks too big to accomplish. 
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If you ask, 'Where Should I start?'
I'll say, 'Where You Are.'

​As we've often heard, “A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.” yet every traveler must have a destination (destiny) in mind from the start. Walking without purpose is called WANDERING. Wandering is fine as a form of relaxation (one of my current clients builds 'wandering time' into his daily schedule - he gets refreshed, gets ideas, gets back to productive work. He earns a full time salary on a 4 hour hour week. Sweet.) 

Every coach soon learns to ask the question,
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"What do you want?"

but, soon enough, they need to lead their coachee to a place where they are ready to look squarely at their CURRENT situation.

"Where are you now?"

Because sometimes, as we get real with our current situation, we can sometimes start to get despondent, doubt we could ever the vision and start picturing it as something too far out of our reach - or alternatively as something we start out trying to achieve but we fail. Fail to plan properly, fail to finance adequately, fail to accomplish for any number of reasons.

If your vision is COMPELLING enough, you'll find that it infuses you with energy - you will literally feel the change in your body and in your mind. Vision itself is a factory of energy. But it must be BELIEVABLE.

As you look at what it is you desire, make sure you pass the first test: check how you feel deep inside when you say to yourself,  
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"That is mine!"

If you truly believe that statement - brilliant, go for it!
But if there is hesitation and doubt, step back and try saying...
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"That WILL BE mine!"

If this statement sits well with you IN TRUTH, then great... work on it more until you have enough belief to truly state, 'It is mine!'.
 
If neither of these statments ring true deep inside (and you have to get brutally honest with yourself on this) then take a further step back and try this statement...
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"This is POSSIBLE!"

It's essential to START WHERE YOU ARE. And if you can't honestly 'affirm' your desires in total honesty you simply MUST adjust what you say to what you truly believe. 


People have rightly said, "Choose the level you want to play at." But you must ensure that this chosen level is in line with your unconscious thinking. If part of you deep inside doesn't think you deserve the end result, for example, it will work against you - and it will win! 

So, what now?

1. Dare to dream
   
2. Revive that vision you used to have
   
3. As you think about it, envision it, feel it, look inside yourself and identify any evident unease with it. 
4. Take time to write down, to put into words, the feelings you have around this vision
5. Then create a COMPLETELY BELIEVABLE statement that sums up that vision and hold this before you daily until you've able to TRULY raise your sights and believe for more.

When you approach things this way you will avoid the STRESS that so many people unwittingly generate when they spout their 'affirmations' that deep inside they actually don't (can't) believe. To persist with this practice is merely to create INTERNAL CONFLICT (which equals STRESS)... so let's stay on a path that actually works for us.


Speak what is true - true of NOW and true of your FUTURE.


Let me know if this has been helpful.


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